I think that the variation of differences in the scores for the tests all depend on who takes which test. Some of the tests require someone who has been with me in certain settings to have experienced situations that would show my personality and reactions. My mother evaluated me with many more situations to draw upon. My coworker was sometimes asking me what I prefer because she has never been in a situation were I was verbally aggressive or angry. One thing is that I evaluated myself more harshly than everyone around me. That is a good thing, but my parents are always telling me that I am too hard on myself.
It is not that I did not know that I am a direct person when talking to people, but as I have gone through the courses in this program and some conversations between my family, I have become more empathetic and sympathetic to the way I approach parents and people in general.
Personally my family and boyfriend feel that I am critical when speaking to them but I am a great listener. My coworker feels that I am sympathetic and engage in positive conversations with colleagues and parents. The differences speak to the my self-concept and how I view others as well as the differences in environment.
Hi Alyssa,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you that a person is always harsher in self-evaluation more than others because everyone knows one’s self better. However, knowing what others think is also beneficial so that a person can improve her/his communication skills. I also agree with you that this course is an eye opener on how we communicate within our environment; before this course I did not notice some aspects of my communication until I learned about them in this course.
Hello Alyssa,
ReplyDeleteI evaluated myself differently, than my collegues did. As we are aware of the internal factors and influences that impact our communicaiton, we may be employing strategies to compensate for areas that we do not believe to be strenghts. What I have learned, is that there are strenghts and weakensses in all communicaton styles. We simply need to recognize our abililties and believe in ourselves.
Hello Alyssa,
ReplyDeleteI evaluated myself harder than others did too. I feel other people sometimes do not see the mistakes or the flaws in my communication but then again I could just be harder on myself. I have great listening skills and I love to talk to small groups. I enjoyed reading your post!